Yes. This kit was created specifically for that situation. 

It helps you: 

• get clear on your decision, 

• prepare for difficult conversations, 

• respond calmly when your spouse resists, 

• and start taking steps that are within your control, even if your spouse isn’t ready yet. 

You don’t need their agreement to begin preparing. 

No. 

This kit is designed to come before hiring professional help. 

Many people use it to: 

• organize their thoughts, 

• understand their finances, 

• and feel emotionally and practically prepared 
  before spending money on mediation or legal support. 

It sets you up for a better divorce experience later. 

That’s okay — and very common. 

The Divorce Readiness Assessment and reflection questions are meant to help you: 

• slow down, 

• separate emotion from clarity, 

• and understand why you’re leaning toward divorce. 

This is so much more than information. It includes: 

• clear explanations, 

• practical scripts you can actually use, 

• fillable tools and spreadsheets, 

• and a 30-day action plan that breaks everything into small, manageable steps. 

That’s exactly why this is structured as a 30-day prep. 

You don’t need to do everything at once. 
Most exercises can be completed in short sittings, and many people take longer than 30 days — that’s fine. 

This is meant to reduce overwhelm, not add to it. 

This spreadsheet is simply a clear list of what you own and what you owe — nothing more. 

You don’t need financial experience, and you don’t need exact numbers. 
It walks you through: 

• listing assets like your home, savings, vehicles, and pensions, 

• listing debts like credit cards, loans, and lines of credit, 

• and seeing everything in one place for the first time. 

Many people tell me this is the moment things finally start to feel less scary. 

That’s completely normal. 

This spreadsheet is meant to be a working draft, not a final document. 
You can: 

• leave items blank, 

• estimate where needed, 

• and update it as you gather statements. 

You’re learning about your family money before decisions are made. 

You can’t divide what you can’t see. 

This spreadsheet helps you: 

• understand the full picture before negotiating, 

• avoid giving up important assets too early, 

• and have more informed conversations with your spouse, mediator, or lawyer. 

Even if you later hire professionals, this work makes those conversations clearer, faster, and less overwhelming. 

Most steps take 15–30 minutes. Some days are simply about reflection or preparation, not action.

Yes. This guide focuses on preparation, communication, and financial organization, which apply no matter where you live. 
Any legal or filing references are general, and you’ll always want to follow the rules of your own province or country for formal legal steps.